Posted by: hspsblog | June 21, 2012

Regrets….What can we do about them?

Regrets are a topic that many of us spend quite a bit of time thinking and worrying about and sometimes these regrets are taken with us on our life journey and many of us still have them with us at the ‘end of the road’.

It’s so important that we live everyday doing the things that will make us proud to look back in the years to come. It is easy to be connected to electronics and media and disconnected from those around us. Quality time with family and friends and life in reality is so vital to our happiness and feelings of connection with others. How we might regret not spending enough time with our spouses,children and friends?

I was very moved by a Dr. Robert Brooks’ recent newsletters on understanding and trying to resolve our regrets and wanted to share this great resource with you. I’m hoping to have another post focusing on his second newsletter on Regrets and Optimism in the future.

Dr. Brooks posted an introductory newsletter describing the 5 most common regrets at end of life and then a followup newsletter on optimism and regrets. Both of these newsletters were full of great information and resources.

Dr. Brooks referenced an article written by Susie Steiner that appeared in The Guardian earlier this year:

The article is based on the recordings of Bronnie Ware, an Australian nurse who devoted several years working in palliative care with patients in the last 12 weeks of their lives. She wrote a blog “Inspiration and Chai” based on the reflections of these patients, which she then compiled in a book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying.

Here are the Top Five Regrets from Bronnie Ware’s work, taken from the Newsletter:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

Please continue on to Dr. Brooks Site to read the newsletters in their entirety. Also the main link to Dr. Brooks’ Site is on the side bar of the main page of this Blog.

Here is a link to the first newsletter on Regrets:<Link>
Here is a link to the second newsletter on Regrets and Optimism:<Link>

While you are on his Site, you might be interested in subscribing to his monthly newsletter.

Here is a thought to ponder from the conclusion of Dr. Brooks’ newsletter, that will conclude today’s post:

She asks what, if any, regrets you have about the life you have led. How would you respond?

Hmmm…..I need to think about that…how about you?

Posted by: hspsblog | May 21, 2012

Stop and Take Time For Yourself

It is so easy to get overwhelmed and stressed as an HSP with information overload in our daily experiences of traffic jams, large crowds, TV commercials and the pressures to overwork ourselves.

Self-Care is so very important to our ability to stay resilient when we are faced with so many daily challenges.

Here are some ideas that I’d like to share:

1.) Hang colorful nature pictures around you’re work cubicle.
2.) Utilize a computer program that plays relaxing nature sounds, for example, Vector Media’s Atmosphere Deluxe that also has beautiful nature slide shows to go with the sounds.
3.) Listen to classical music in the background (I find classical music rejuvenates and relaxes my stress)
4.) Find an activity that takes your mind off of all your worries, such as playing a musical instrument or taking up a new hobby, such as knitting, crafts, or writing in a journal.
5.) Try to find time every day for walking and or exercising.
6.) Drink a hot cup of tea or take a bath after a long day.
7.) Try to give yourself breaks away from your computers and cell phones every day, especially during family time, so you can enjoy quality time without distractions.

If we don’t take time to take care of ourselves it will be much harder to take care of others.

Let me know what has worked for you in your self care routines. Looking forward to hearing you experiences and ideas.

Posted by: hspsblog | May 18, 2012

Am I Highly Sensitive?

Dr. Elaine Aron has a self-test posted on her website, that can also be found in her book, ‘The Highly Sensitive Person’ that will help assess whether or not a person has traits of High Sensitivity.  Dr. Aron has written many books on the subject of HSPs and a link to her bookstore can be found on the main page of this blog.

Here is a link to the self-test: self-test link

She also has as questionnaire to help determine if children have traits of High Sensitivity.

Here is a link to the child self-test: child self-test link.

Here is a link to the Main Page of her website:

Dr. Elaine Aron’s Website

Posted by: hspsblog | May 17, 2012

Positive Affirmations

Wow…I found this to be an inspiring book, as we can enhance our reality by starting the day right…and by affirming the positive….what a difference it makes to use affirmations:

Check out the book from Cheryl Richardson….’You Can Create an Exceptional Life’

Posted by: hspsblog | May 17, 2012

HSP Resources

Good Morning…Here are some HSP books that I have found to be very helpful:

Dr. Elaine Aron’s Website Book Store link:

Dr. Ted Zeff’s Website  Book Store link:

These books are also available from Amazon and other vendors.

Please comment if you have read any of these and post your recommendations or ideas.

Posted by: hspsblog | May 17, 2012

Secrets of Happiness

What is happiness…why are so many of us unhappy…how can we find true happiness?

Here is an excerpt from Steven Reiss’ article on happiness:

Based on a survey by Psychologist Steven Reiss (Psychology Today, January 1, 2001) of over 6,000 people Steven brings us a unique insight into happiness that ‘rang true’ for me and hopefully it will for you too:

Here is a quote from Steven Reiss’ 2001 Article:

“Value-based happiness is the great equalizer in life. You can find value-based happiness if you are rich or poor, smart or mentally challenged, athletic or clumsy, popular or socially awkward. Wealthy people are not necessarily happy, and poor people are not necessarily unhappy. Values, not pleasure, are what bring true happiness, and everybody has the potential to live in accordance with their values.”

Please visit the following link for the complete article, which also includes a survey at the bottom of the article to help us rate ourselves according to what values are the most important to us on our journey to obtaining true happiness.

Featured in an article a few months ago, Susan Biali, M.D. posted an article with many very practical tips for assisting HSPs in their day to day activities.

Here is a brief synopsis (from the article):

1) Get enough sleep

2) Eat healthy foods regularly throughout the day

3) Wear noise-reducing headphones

4) Plan in decompression time

5) Have at least one quiet room or space to retreat to in your home

6) Give yourself time and space to get things done

7) Limit caffeine

8) Keep the lights down low

9) Get things done in off hours

10) Surround yourself with beauty and nature

For the practical application of these tips, as well as the full text of the article please check out this link:

Top 10 Survival Tips for the Highly Sensitive Person (HSP)

Please comment on what seems to work for you from this list.




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